Basic phrase but very Correct. Right?
Whether in physical things or skills that asked you to do. We simply can't do it or give it because we don't have it. But this phrase doesn't always work with LOVE.
Us people, we have this idea of perfection wherein we love what's perfect, and us being us, we know that we are far from perfection because we can see what's in our hearts, what's our thoughts, our darkest secrets, and past mistakes that's why sometimes it's not easy to love ourself. A lot of times, we feel frustrated with what we're doing to the point that we think we don't deserve to be loved.
But how can you fill someone's love tank if your's is empty?
Learning to love yourself is one of the most powerful and important things you can do in life. You have to become the source of love that will fill your heart.
There is nothing wrong with giving love to other people, but don't make someone else a reason for your own happiness. Try finding it inside your own self. You have to have good self-respect, love, and esteem to be able to love in a healthy way.
Before I beg for other people to stay in my life and to do that, whatever they do or say bad toward me, it's fine, or if they ask me to do things, I'll do it. Just for them to stay. In short, It's okay for me to be manipulated and used; though it hurts, I'll just endure it. I gave out so much attention, time, effort, care, and love without receiving that same energy in return, but one day I woke up and realized how stupid I am for allowing these things to happen.
There's a point in our life when we allow our world to revolve around just one person, but what will happen if he/she left? Maybe, happiness will also leave us. I love this quote from Fred Rogers: "Solitude is different from loneliness." Often, we feel like being alone or having no partner is equal to being lonely, but it's not. You just have to let your world revolve around you, not because you can't find someone to love or not because you're unworthy to be accepted or cared for but because you deserve to wake up smiling, happy because you know how to fight alone and feels right because your happiness doesn't depend on other people anymore, and ready to make mistakes again.
Give yourself liberation from situations that you don't deserve.
You have to put in mind that you are a human being; we are naturally imperfect and fragile, but we are beautiful in our own ways, and we can live a purposeful life even though we are far from being perfect. You don't need someone to make you feel loved, though it feels right to be loved and appreciated by others; the point is we have to learn to be okay without the validation of other people; I'm in the phase of life where I'm okay if people block me or unblock me, they conversate with me or not, they care about me or not, they judge me or not, life goes on. I am secured that there will be people who will choose to stay in my life and love all of me.
We have to learn how to validate and appreciate ourselves. We love not because we want to prove to the world that forever exists but because we want to be happy while still alive. Falling in love will make every morning worth getting up for, but to feel that love doesn't require another person beside you on your bed or texting you "Good Morning." or someone that can give you flowers and gifts; You can fall in love with everything around you, you can fall in love with the sunset, the moon, the dogs, etc. and most especially you can fall in love with yourself, with your own unique beauty and appreciate the person you are now.
You cannot truly love if you cannot love yourself while you're alone. The moment you love yourself the right way, you will be ready to share that love with the one who deserves to take care of your heart. You have to fill your own love tank so that you can share that love with the people that will love all of you, not just the side of you that's sweet, caring, gentle, and happy; but can also love your hard edges, your grumpy moods, jealousy, attitude, darkest secrets, and insecurities. I'm so grateful to those rare individuals that accepted me for who I am, people who made me feel so special, and people who listened to me without judgments and understood without pretension, and loved me without conditions.
Knowing both of my good and bad sides makes it hard for me to fall in love with myself sometimes. But now, I'm ready for it; I'm ready to make mistakes and grow from them. I'm learning how to express my most intense emotions without completely falling apart. I learned how to be kind and to forgive myself. I know that there will be days that I will feel insecure and unappreciated, and that's okay. This world is full of uncertainties, and we have to be ready to let go of the things and the people that we love, but we have to make sure that when that happens, we're still whole and have a heart that is ready to give love because you don't run out of it because you have enough left for yourself.
Happy Fridaaay! :)))
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